How To Choose Words That Get You What You Want

Talking again, this week, about words because I’ve found that being conscious of the things you say is so much more important than any other healthy habit bc that’s where everything begins!

How you feel, what you do and how you relate to the world come from the thoughts you think and the words you use.

Last time, I told you about transforming from simple disempowering phrases we get in the habit of using to even better, powerful words.

This week I’m inviting you to the next phase of using words to create what you want in life. If you’ve been practicing with me – switching “I can’t” with “I don’t” or “I choose” and instead of giving away your truth and sense of capability by saying “I don’t know” when you actually do – then you are probably experiencing this gorgeous change, as I am, of really feeling more powerful and opening up to the truth of what you want in life.

So, in phase 2, I invite you to choose a couple words or themes that represent what you want to see come about in life BUT there is a catch!

Try to go a little deeper into your soul to find things you truly desire.

Maybe you want money or to lose weight or look younger or a new car or a house. That’s great

Then, what I invite you to do is explore what having those would mean to you. How would you feel?

What are you experiencing?

I heard a great quote from Ramit Sethi and Tim Ferriss, I’m paraphrasing, but he basically said:

You don’t want a million dollars. You want the experience that you think that million dollars will give you.

He went on to give an example that you may think you want a private jet and you find out it costs a million dollars to buy your own plane. When you dig deeper, what you really want is the experience of freedom to fly somewhere without having to deal with commercial airline hell. So, when you actually have a trip planned, you may find out that you can charter a plane for $10,000. Really, all you need is 10 grand to have the experience you desire or maybe you could even get it with $2000 for a first class ticket.

It was really an eye opener and when you look at the math, you can take 100-500 trips on a chartered plane or first class vs buying your own (no frills) plane and still have the feeling you want while you travel.

So, sure, we all want money but truthfully, it’s the experience and feeling that money will bring to our lives. That feeling is more accessible than you realize.

Maybe it’s weight loss for you, but truly isn’t it that losing weight will make you feel desirable, strong and vivacious?

Then, those are this week’s power words!

You can start to use them more often when you’re describing things and in casual conversation.

My example words this week are: Fun, Ease and Gorgeous.

During conversations, instead of using a word like “pretty” I sub in “gorgeous” and throughout the day, I acknowledge, out loud, when things are fun and easy.

I’ve even gone so far as to say out loud “This is going to be easy”, even if it’s a really challenging project I’m undertaking.

Just by saying it, I change my attitude and as a bonus, I say a little gratitude prayer when things go my way and over the last couple weeks, I’ve received more and more.

My life literally became more gorgeous, work is easier and more fun!

This simple practice reminds me all day what kind of the life I want to live so I actively choose more and more of that gorgeous and fun life.

Think about it, when you feel bad and you keep repeating and focusing on the bad, doesn’t it seem to create more and more until you finally fall in bed praying it will be better tomorrow?

Well, this is the opposite.

This is grabbing on to that feeling of vivaciousness, fun or gracefulness you crave and holding it for just a moment more until those moments become your life!

Another example: say you have to go to the store and one of your themes is “elegant.” Maybe you take just a moment to fix yourself up a little and add a touch of elegance to your store trip.

May sound silly but slipping on some black flats instead of flip flops doesn’t take a second but changes how you feel, right?

Then, at the store, you feel a little bouncier in your walk and others may notice and smile at you and you’ll feel more elegant as well.

The bonuses are that feeling can morph into feeling attractive and vivacious, regardless of your weight, height or any other perceived flaw.

If you say a little gratitude, “Thanks for this feeling of ______”, you hold on a little more to that amazing feeling and those moments expand to make that chore of shopping more pleasant, yeah? Plus, it expands that feeling longer in your life, because life is just a series of moments.

I hope you will practice this with me this week. Choose 3 words, you can even use mine if you like them!

Then, comment below to let me know what happens.


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How To Create Stress Free Holidays

Don’t you love the Holidays? Me too!

This time of year, I always get excited with visions of cozy holiday get togethers with family and friends. I picture me, dressed in the cutest outfits, surrounded by people I love – all of us having a fabulous time. There’s always gorgeous food, fantastic music, sparkly ambiance…you know, like out of a Hallmark movie.

Then of course, there’s reality. Wardrobe malfunctions, burned appetizers, jokes that fall flat and fluorescent overhead lighting.

Know what I mean? But there are still so many gorgeous moments that make it all so good.

In between, it seems like there are so many demands during these couple of months that we get more exhausted than festive. I already know people stressing out about getting the perfect gifts, how much to tip various vendors and service providers, what to feed people with food allergies, which events they are obligated to go to vs. those that they desire to attend, and of course still dealing with everyday busyness of life.

Are you one of them?

Do you find yourself dreading those long lines at the stores, cringing over budgets, screaming at crazy holiday traffic and wondering where you’ll find all the time to do it all?

I get it. I’ve been there.

Fortunately, God gifted me with this supernatural ability to plan and execute, including contingencies and fail safes, so I’ve been able to streamline some of these things over the years. In fact, I’m sharing one of those fool proof plans here.

Today’s topic is a little higher level than just how to make a plan so that you can fit it all in though. It’s about creating a mindset of enjoyment in the season which actually makes everything fall into place perfectly!


One thing I’ve learned from my mentors and can attest to is that when you take a moment to clear your mind and intentionally approach every thing with a mindset of “How can I enjoy this?”, it all just starts to magically flow right.

For example, all those perfect gifts used to stress me out. I mean, even if I figured out what people wanted and could find it, they usually had already bought it for themselves and when they opened my gift…well, it’s not so exciting.

Have you been there too?

So, I shifted toward thinking about the true enjoyment of gifts. The truth is that the giver and the receiver both enjoy it. It brings pleasure to know you got someone something they appreciate and isn’t it a joy to open a gift that you know you will enjoy? So, you can choose to create that joy instead of creating a chore of shopping for an arbitrary gift.

So, as I’m shopping for gifts, I focus more on that vision of joy than the specific item and I often find that just the right idea comes to me. When I’m thinking about my recipient and who they really are, what they really like and not cloud it with what I think they’d like or what I want them to like (ever do that?), the perfect gift jumps out at me.

Another thing this time of year is food and it can be tricky!

Food allergies and intolerances are on the rise and are way more serious than just being a picky eater. Plus, food is such a social and cultural thing that we have an emotional attachment even, don’t we?

Unfortunately, I don’t have a magic wand for that problem but I can tell you that going back to that mindset of enjoyment really works wonders.

If it’s you who has the food restrictions, this mindset is like a magic wand. Going to events with the intention of having fun and not worrying about the food can bring out the gorgeous elements that you never even noticed before. You can choose to delight in the beauty of the decorations, the festive energy in the music and focusing on your conversations to create closer relationships and be fully engaged in the event instead of what’s mindlessly going in your mouth next.

Also, as the host, it can certainly simplify what food you serve when you deconstruct the menu instead of trying to create an extravagant smorgasbord.

One simple strategy I would recommend is to focus on serving whole foods that don’t require ingredients lists, as much as possible. Having a selection of scrumptious fruit and veggies with dipping sauce on the side empowers your guests to choose what is good for them without fear. Even meat and cheese trays, separate from crackers or breads makes things a little safer. Then, you can focus on enjoying the party and trust that your guests will take care of their own food choices and you’re not exhausted from cooking all day either! Or having to put out a book of ingredients lists – ha ha!

So, those are just a couple examples of the issues I hear about all the time and why if you’re actively choosing to enjoy the people and activities, rather than trying to create an impossible version of perfect, the season can become a truly joyful and fulfilling experience.

Now, I’ll be honest with you, I haven’t found a cure for road rage in bad holiday traffic yet but try a few deep breaths (try not to hyperventilate though) and maybe sing along to the radio. Let me know if that helps! I know, it helps me.

Please leave a comment below with your thoughts. I always love to hear them and learn from you too!

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