I always get what I want. So do you.

It’s a bold thing to say, that I always get what I want. It may sound egotistical, spoiled and maybe even a little manipulative but the truth is, we all get what we want.

We get what we choose to have in our life.

Sure, there are factors out of our control, mindsets and physical barriers that bring about the circumstances in life.

Bear with me a moment though.

The second side to this is wanting what you have, as well.

The other day, I was sitting in a room with all of my stuff in boxes (part of my sabbatical was a decision to leave my house, more on that later) and starting to figure out what of it really “worked” for me and going through a third round of donation collection to simplify my life.

I realized that I like my stuff, every bit of it.

Have you ever thought about that?

I invite you to look around you right now and focus on each item you see. Do you like it?

This is a practice in receiving as well. Receiving value and pleasure from the things you already have.

Liking what you already have!

Another question: How much stuff do you buy, just because it’s cheap and will do, for now?

During the first round of simplifying my life, I intended to make a healthy change and eject as much plastic from my surroundings as possible.

Mostly because plastics constantly give off hormone altering chemicals and can cause serious disease even in very small amounts.

Have you ever left water in a plastic container over night and tasted it in the morning to find a plastic “flavor” to it? Not good. Really!

Also, plastic is made from petroleum and there are environmental concerns about production processes and the waste, toxic chemicals leeching into ground water and overabundant trash filling our oceans that lasts forever. You’ve heard all of this before and it’s a good example of how to inform yourself so you can choose what you want, intentionally!

So, for my health and to be a better steward of the world, I decided to not only quit buying plastic but to remove it from my life in the most responsible way possible.

It was shocking to see how much cheap plastic there is in my life and in the world!

Through that process, I learned that most of us are touching plastic every single moment of our life!  Microfiber sheets and polyfiber clothing, plastic liners and packaging on food and even when you’re naked in the shower – the floor is probably plastic and the water is moving through plastic pipes depositing a chemical film on your skin to absorb into your blood stream (skin is particularly permeable when wet btw).

You may say, I don’t want that! Because I certainly said that.          I don’t want that.

But, you know what?  We have chosen, as a community, to build our world this way…even if it was just a byproduct of convenience and overindulgence – we want convenience and an abundance of cheap stuff.

Otherwise, we wouldn’t spend our hard earned money on these things, even when it’s just a little or once in a while. We have traded delayed gratification, quality or quantity and educating ourselves for mindless consumption of products that are leeching chemicals and may be killing us all slowly and painfully.

Likewise, many of us choose shallow relationships out of convenience and not wanting to make the effort or prioritize our time and resources toward developing trusting and loving partnerships.  Others want deep and meaningful relationships and make intentional choices to bring them into their life.  Does that make sense?

That’s how you get everything that you want – you actively choose it.  You don’t just fall into it.

Back to my first example: No, I don’t like it when I drop a glass jar full of food and have to clean up the splinters. Perhaps a plastic container would bounce and stay sealed but I don’t want the chemical nightmare of health and environmental dangers for me and my family. So, I choose what I do want and here’s where it gets complicated:

I receive what is there for me when the thing I don’t want, happens.

If I drop a jar, as I’m cleaning up the glass wishing I wasn’t, I use it as a cue to ask what I can receive in that situation. Maybe it’s a lesson to be more careful – more MINDFUL of what I’m doing in every moment. My intention to live every moment of my life fully includes paying attention to slippery jars! I want that opportunity and reminder to pay attention to my life.

Now, we’ve come full circle from getting what you want and wanting what you get. It’s not about having rich relatives or a government grant for an endless stream of cash – it’s about your mindset, awareness and intentional choices.

It’s about how you look at and think about who you are and how you live your life!

It’s about receiving every moment with attention and intention, to make the best choices.

Simply put, if you intend to appreciate every experience in this life because life is a wonderful gift, not to be squandered – you get what you want!

Today, I’ll pause with a quote that I love and a request that you leave a comment below about something that occurred in your life as a byproduct of a choice you didn’t actively/intentionally make.


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3 Year Sabbatical: How To Get What You Want
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